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What Adoption Looks Like With Quiver Full Adoptions

This is a guest post written by Lauren Connelly.

Everyone pictures adoption differently.

And I can promise you that Quiver Full Adoptions knows that very well.

Some know of adoption as a way of fulfilling their desire to continue growing their family after already having biological children. Others grip tightly to adoption as their last hope of starting a family. And many others look at it as a way of giving their baby a better life.

All of these scenarios are welcomed into the office of Quiver Full Adoptions in Greenville, South Carolina. Elizabeth Bordeaux and Casey Brown from Quiver Full Adoptions believe the Lord provides a family to people in so many more ways than biologically.

Both Elizabeth and Casey have witnessed adoption through their own eyes as adoptive moms. They have shared their stories on their very own podcast called The Quiver Full Adoptions Podcast.

I was lucky enough to meet Elizabeth in person in their adorable office off of Pettigru Street in Greenville, South Carolina.

After chatting with Elizabeth, I learned that Quiver Full Adoptions has elevated the world of adoption especially here in South Carolina.

Quiver Full Adoptions was started by Elizabeth Bordeaux and Casey Brown right after they went through their own season of adoption. On the podcast, they talk about how their stories of adoption are different from each other. Out of all the differences, one of the main similarities is how excruciating it is to wait every day for a potential expectant mother to call. The average adoption process is two years long.

Quiver Full Adoptions is the top agency in South Carolina for ethical adoptions. This means that resources are offered to everyone involved in the adoption process. This includes parents hoping to adopt, families on the waitlist, and expectant mothers interested in placing their child for adoption. They excel at offering support to both parties before and after the adoption process. For example, Quiver Full Adoptions welcomes all expectant mothers, from their agency and any other, to their monthly Birth Mom Support Group. They gather to bond over and understand what adoption looks like from a biological mother perspective.

In addition, they also offer a Facebook Live bible study to their active adoptive families. These are families who have completed a home study and waiting to be chosen by an expectant mother. Quiver Full Adoptions truly supports each person involved in the adoption process.

All adoptions that take place at Quiver Full are open adoptions. This decision was made by Elizabeth and Casey after researching benefits of open adoptions opposed to closed adoptions. This gives expectant mothers and adoptive parents the chance to build a relationship any way they want. After talking to Elizabeth, it seemed that most families are eager to accept their child’s birth mother into their family!

Lastly, adoption is a journey that not only demands patience but is overlooked because it demands financial stability. Quiver Full Adoptions makes adoption a possibility for many by cutting the cost in half from $40,000 to $25,000. While talking to Elizabeth, she talked about how in the beginning their goal was to make adoption reachable for those who are called to adopt. They have been able to eliminate overhead costs that result in a positive and affordable road to adoption for their clients.

The amazing part about Quiver Full Adoptions is they are truly answering the Lord’s calling. Both Elizabeth and Casey understand the courage it takes to share a story of loss and disappointment, but they’ve graciously turned it into guiding others who are facing similar struggles. All of this information is just a small snippet of what really happens at Quiver Full Adoptions.

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How Do I Explain Adoption to My Young Child?

We began our adoption journey a little more than six months ago, when our biological son Moses was three and a half years old. A couple months into the process, our social worker came over for our final in-person home study visit (the very last step to complete our home study with the state). The doorbell rang and I welcomed Sandy in. Moses came running down the stairs from his room with arms open to give her a big hug and blurted out, "I'm so excited to meet my new brother or sister, Miss Sandy!" Spencer and I about died laughing.

My husband and I spent nearly two years trying to conceive before deciding to pursue adoption. Throughout this time, Moses would frequently ask about being a brother. It broke our hearts that we couldn’t make him one. We went through countless infertility treatments over the course of eight months or so, and after our final failed treatment, we decided to discontinue the medical interventions and open our mind to what God had put on our hearts long ago—adoption.

When we realized that we would not actually be able to physically bring a sibling into the world for Moses, we began to think about the ways that we could explain adoption to him. Because he is so young and his heart is still fragile, this was very important to us. The way that we described adoption to Moses at this moment would forever shape the way that he viewed his brother or sister in the future. Would he think of them differently because things didn’t happen the conventional way that he’s seen in other families? Would he think this baby is less special because it was adopted? We never wanted any of these things to happen, so we knew it was super important that we shape this in light of God’s love.

It became time to fill Moses in on what was happening in our hearts and in our family, and honestly we simplified adoption to its fundamental root. We are adopting because we feel like it’s what God has called us to in this season of life. Although this may be a trying experience at times, we are confident that He will fulfill the promise He has already spoken over us. So, we simply told Moses that God was bringing him a brother or sister and that he was finally going to be a big brother. This may seem simple and overrated, but it’s what is going to happen! When he’s so young, simple is best. After all, it didn’t take long for him to begin telling anyone who would listen! His excitement has truly filled our family with even more joy than we could ever imagine.

We are currently waiting to be matched with an expectant mom. The wait is so hard on all of us, but we know that God is writing a better story than we ever could. He continues to stretch our faith and deepen our expectations of what is yet to come. Moses is going to be an amazing big brother someday, and I can’t wait to hear him tell the story of how God answered his prayers and finally made him a brother.

What are some ways that you’ve explained adoption to your children, especially younger ones? Are there any helpful resources that you’ve looked to, books you’ve read them, or Scripture you’ve looked to for guidance? Let us know in the comment section of this post!

 

* Post contributed by current client, Emily Monson

You can follow along with Spencer, Emily, and Moses as they continue their adoption journey, by clicking here!

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